Being a Mum is fucking hard. But being a single mum is a different kind of hard. Not harder, but literally a completely different kind of hard. You’re solely responsible for your tiny human. You put the food on the table. You make sure they’re clothed. You make sure they’re healthy. You do the bedtimes, the baths, the begging them to eat something. The cries and the comforting.
You and only you.
So why are we so judged? Why is there such a huge horrible label against single mums?
Being a single mum isn’t a bad thing. For fucks sake, I deserve a medal for single handedly raising my child alone and keeping him alive. Not dirty looks and snotty comments from Janet who reckons ‘kids shouldn’t have kids especially when the dads not around’.
FYI all the ‘Janet’s’ can go f*ck themselves 😉
Being a single mum means you give up most of you. I don’t get the partner coming home at 5pm and whisking the baby away for a few hours. It’s constant, non stop tidying up toys, being climbed all over at every minute of every day. Barely scraping half an hour to yourself at night time to baby wipe your makeup off and grab a quick bath.
You give up the most part of your social life. You give up the branded makeup, switch river island clothes for primark tees and long gone are the days of hairdressers and nail appointments.
When I found out I was pregnant, I absolutely knew I would raise my baby the best I possibly could. It never EVER crossed my mind to run away from my responsibilities.
His dad, however, ran away from his.
Nowhere to be seen.
So why should I be judged for that?
Why are single mums still being judged, for the males recklessness? Think about that before you go to judge a single mum for not having her babies dad around.
Laura Loveday xo