I know you’re probably thinking ‘well she kinda is a young mum’ but I don’t feel like one.
I was 19 when I fell pregnant with Elijah, and 20 when I gave birth to him so obviously I was fairly young. But I hate the phrase ‘young mum’ simply because why would being young make me any different of a mum to an ‘older’ mum? I don’t feel like age represents anyone’s skills or capability as a parent.
Being a younger mum doesn’t make any difference to my parenting skills, nor does it define my parenting styles. Having a baby matures you in ways you never thought was possible, whether you’re ready for it or not.
Having Elijah young meant I swapped nice all inclusive sun holidays for dirty nappies, swapping Topshop clothes for puke or milk stained Primark tees. I’ve given up nights out (not like it actually bothers me) for nights in cluster feeding and soothing a teething babe. Gone are the days of high end skin care, getting my brows and nails done every three weekly. I’d much rather spend my money on only the best for my child.
I honestly thought I’d spend my 20s climbing the career ladder, being selfish spending all my money on nights out and beach holidays, buying all the latest fashion trends and top line makeup. But I can honestly, hand on heart, say that I don’t regret a thing. I’ve fully thrown myself into motherhood, and Elijah will now always be my main priority.
He’ll always come first now, no matter how much his newly found screeching goes through me. I wouldn’t have my 20s any other way now. Elijah has given me a massive sense of fulfilment, and I’m finally doing something with my life.
Laura Loveday xo